Into the SHIBARI world

Into the SHIBARI world

We interviewed our Expert Davide La Greca Shibari Teacher, Kink, Sex educator and International Performer to find out more about the world of Shibari.

  • Is it a widespread sexual practice?

Shibari was born as a sexual practice, but by now it has taken on a separate component linked to the emotional experience. It is a rapidly spreading practice and more and more people are interested in approaching it.

In fact, the offers are constantly increasing, both in terms of courses and visual use on social networks.

Many artists are also starting to include shibar in their performances, see my participation as a rigger in Elodie's video "Vertigine".

  • How does Shibari take place?

“Shibari is a couple's activity: one person is tied up, and the other gets tied up.

The first part is far from the ropes. In fact, this first phase is dedicated to bargaining, i.e. the limits of the things that can be done and the things that cannot be done are stabilized, an analysis of physical and mental state of those who are tied up to avoid causing damage and the safewords are stabilized to be able to interrupt at any time due to an emergency or a problem.

When the two are clear about what they want to experience, they take the ropes and the Rigger (who binds) begins to create by binding the partner.

After the binding, which is an integral part of the experience, we move on to check that everything went well and finally to feedback, to communicate the experience made to each other.

Shibari is a moment of intense communication between two people. "

  • Are there any roles in Shibari?

“The Rigger is who binds, the Bunny who gets bound. However, some use the terms top and bottom to indicate the exchange of power between the two roles.

A little known role is Security, a person who is present during the tying to be able to intervene in an emergency, a very useful figure when the rigger is a beginner or decides to do something with a high risk coefficient.”

  • What makes people try Shibari?

“This is a question that has lots of answers. My experience is that most approach for the pleasure of feeling the constriction, of losing freedom of movement in exchange for extreme care.

However, for others it is the sexual component, which does not mean penetrative, but the pleasure of feeling one's own body in the hands of another.

The practice of Shibari is very personal and has its roots in everyone's experience, and in the fantasies it has built up from adolescence onwards. "

  • Is Shibari a dangerous sexual practice?

"Yes, absolutely. It is a practice in which the body is physically tested, the mind is brought into a situation outside the comfort zone, therefore, the risk coefficient is equal to skydiving or racing motorcycles, as long as everything is fine it is beautiful, but a carelessness or a mistake can be very dangerous.

Furthermore, since there is still a social stigma, for which public opinion sees shibari as part of pornography, doing so also has a component of risk for social life, of being pointed out as perverts. This thing is decreasing, but it is still a factor present. "

  • What are the things to know before trying Shibari?

“Study, read a few books, find out, above all, about physical risks, then analyze what is expected from the experience.

It is advisable to contact an expert, if only to ask a few questions and, perhaps, try in a protected environment such as a Shibari event.

Furthermore, the safety part is fundamental, I myself have made a safety video course available for free to help people who want to get close. "


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